My oldest son, ever the philosopher, recently told us that he wished that good experiences lasted longer and the bad ones shorter.
Even at the age of six he understands the concept that time flies when you’re having fun, but bad times seem to linger.
Karen and I smiled at him and I responded with a few ways to make the good times seem to last longer and the bad times shorter.
I’ve thought of a few additional points since reflecting on the subject and here are my thoughts.
To make the good times last longer:
- Celebrate your successes.
- When you reflect on the events of the day, learn to remember and relive the good that has happened.
- Be grateful.
- Eagerly anticipate things that you’re looking forward to.
To shorten the bad times:
- Don’t focus on the mistakes that you’ve made, focus on what you’ve learned.
- Forgive quickly.
- Train yourself not to sit and think about the negative experiences for too long, but move on in optimism.
- Don’t spend a lot of time complaining about your issues.
- Don’t deliberate on your problems, come up with resourceful solutions.
What do you do to make the good moments in life seem to last longer and the bad times shorter?
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January 26, 2012 at 3:12 am
Debbie
You covered this so well, I don’t know what to add. I think it does take training and practice to just hand it over to God as soon as I can, in both cases, the good things and the bad. Thanks Coach D!
January 27, 2012 at 12:35 pm
Darren Poke
Thanks Debbie, it certainly does take practice to get this right.
January 26, 2012 at 7:06 am
granbee
Great help for us creative types here,Darren. We can fall into the trap of TOO much sensitivity, you know, and dwell on the goof-ups and beat our chests far too much. Celebrations should be longer than self-critique sessions. Spot the mistake, announce the improvement/solution to Self, move on. You are so right on target.
January 27, 2012 at 12:35 pm
Darren Poke
Thanks Rose