Whenever you do something in public, you’ll have a range of opinions on how well you performed.

You may be speaking, blogging or leading a group of people, but when in this situation it can be confusing to discern how well you actually went, especially when you have a range of viewpoints.

Some people will always love your work, no matter how well you did, while others will always find something to pick on.

I really like what they do in high diving competitions. 

After someone dives, the judges all give their score. 

Then the lowest and highest numbers are removed, leaving the remaining scores as the final analysis.

Why not do that ourselves?

Some people surround themselves with yes-men.  People who gush over them regardless of their level of performance.

It’s nice to have people in your life who encourage you no matter what you do, but they’re not going to help you to improve by holding up 10’s when you haven’t earned them.

Others become obsessed with the low markers, those who are stuck in cynical perspectives and give 1’s and 2’s no matter how well you did.  Catering to the habitual low scorers is fraught with danger and you risk ostracising the rest of your audience if you try to please everyone.

So next time you get feedback from a range of people, do what the divers do. 

Take the highest and lowest opinions with a grain of salt and use the remaining perspectives to give you encouragement and teach you how to continue to improve.

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