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This week the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton takes place.

It’s a massive media event and promises to be one of the most glamourous occasions of the year.

Tens of thousands of dollars will be spent on the lavish celebration and every component of the day will be carefully planned.

These days, even for us commoners, there seems to be a lot of pressure to have a grand wedding, with a whole industry based on assisting people part with their money so that they can have the big fairytale wedding that they’ve always dreamed about.

My question today is, what’s more important, a fairytale wedding or a fairytale marriage?

I now that it’s a rhetorical question, but I’ve seen a lot of couples invest heavily in making sure that their wedding day goes perfectly, but fail to make a similar investment of time and energy into ensuring that they have a successful marriage.

I’m not against a fabulous wedding (although I would favour spending less and giving some of the money to World Vision) and know that it’s easier to control a day when you get to say who sits where, what people should wear, what everyone will eat and have everyone give you gifts according to a pre-arranged registry, than it is to be connected to another person for life.

I just wish that more couples would remember the vows that they spoke on the day well after the event. 

A long-lasting marriage is hard work.  It’s messy, it’s complicated and it’s a test of your character. 

It’s also worth it. 

Making it through the good times and bad is a terrific achievement that is becoming less prevalent in our society where the short-term and easy option (the fairytale wedding) is becoming the prefered option over the long-term and more challenging option (the fairytale marriage).

I wish William and Kate all the best on their big day.  I can’t imagine the pressure that there must be marrying into the royal family and they will confront many challenges along the way. 

My prayer for them (and for all married couples) is that they focus on making sure that the marriage itself is a bigger deal than the wedding and that they can live happily ever after, just like the fairytales.

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