Pain is inevitable in life.

No matter how much you try, you can’t avoid it.

What you do get to choose is the sort of pain you experience.

You can either choose the pain of hard work, of taking risks that don’t always work, practicing hard and living a disciplined life that forgoes comfort now for comfort later, or you can choose the pain of regret, of terminal dissatisfaction and of knowing that you could have done more, but didn’t.

You can choose the pain of relationships, risking your heart being broken, wincing when those close to you are hurting and making sacrifices for those you love, or you can choose the pain of loneliness, keeping a barrier up that no-one can breach and spending your life alone and empty.

You can choose the pain of sacrificing for your children, giving up your time to make sure that your kids get the attention they deserve and maintaining consistent boundaries to ensure that they understand consequences for actions, or you can choose the pain of sacrificing your children, neglecting your parental responsibilities so much that you don’t have a relationship with them as adults and leaving them without the skills and attitudes necessary to thrive in today’s world.

You can choose the pain of character development, acting according to your values, spending daily time with God, saying “No” to the good so that you can say “Yes” to the best and responding positively to feedback, or you can choose the pain of flakiness, wishing that you could walk your talk, trying to avoid being caught in the web of lies you’ve told and constantly looking in the mirror and not being able to make eye-contact with yourself.

Pain is inevitable.

Don’t try to avoid it, it’s a waste of time.

Just make the right choice as to which one you experience.

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