You-have-to-make-aHere’s a quick excerpt of a conversation in the car between me and my 7 year-old daughter, Madison.

Madison:  “Dad, I don’t feel very well.”

Me: “Then stop reading and look out the window for a bit.”

Madison:  “I don’t want to.”

Me (very compassionately): “Then don’t complain when you feel sick.”

Fun times.

It struck me later that I’ve had similar conversations over the years.

“I hate my job.”

“Find a new job.”

“I don’t want to.”

Or perhaps this version:

“I hate how I look.”

“Go to a gym and don’t eat so much crap.”

“I don’t want to.”

And then there’s this one which I can’t understand:

“My kids are really difficult to manage at the moment.”

“Perhaps you need to change the way you discipline and interact with them.”

“I don’t want to.”

Often in life there are things that we would like to be different.

It could be your job, your health, your finances, your house, your relationships, your church.  The list goes on and on.

If you’re expecting them to somehow automatically change for the better, you could be waiting for a long time.

Remember, you’re not a tree.

You have the power to choose actions that will change your situation.

You have to make a change (and make yourself happier), or stop complaining (and at least make everyone else happier).

It’s as simple as that.

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